Authenticity and the Victim. It matters

Authenticity and the Victim. It matters

Authenticity inevitably drops shame for peace in the midst of this aspect of life. True self-acceptance, as you are, self-love, self-trust, allows you to leave all the victim-shaming where it is, and expand your comfort zone to be okay with the messy phase of being the victim.  If it helps…

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The opportunity inherent in this pandemic

The opportunity inherent in this pandemic

In a world that usually makes sure we’re always too busy for deep introspection, to find out who you really are and — beyond the panic, beyond survival mode, of a pandemic — what you really, deeply, want most out of this life, is an opportunity I invite you to immerse yourself in, if you can.

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Why success flows from your Comfort Zone

Why success flows from your Comfort Zone

Your comfort zone is your friend. It is not boring, it is not a prison, it is where you breathe most deeply, where you feel safe and secure, where you are most confident. Your stretch zone is just beyond the boundary of your comfort zone, and often eventually becomes your new comfort zone, as you grow and evolve authentically and at your own pace. What do you think your energy levels would look like if you lived by this? Read more here.

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Reframing Authenticity without Resentment or Rebellion

Reframing Authenticity without Resentment or Rebellion

Honouring individual sovereignty and free will means I respect that everyone who is alive, and healthy, is capable of making the best decisions for themselves, and their lives, uninfluenced by anyone else. I cringe when I hear coaches and teachers talking about "pushing" or giving "a kick in the pants", because I know it diminishes individual power. I believe we all take action when we're intrinsically ready, and action taken before that often leads to doubt, wondering “what if”, imposter syndrome and subconsciously grieving what we lost. So how does this apply to authenticity, and how do resentment and rebellion fit into any of it? Read on…

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Advisors and community that honour your Individual Sovereignty

Do you feel more confident and secure in your own decision making process after you engage with your advisors or mentors? I have observed this widely accepted (perhaps cultural) trend of condescension, among gurus, coaches, consultants and other advising professionals.

In essence, whether they're congratulating a client patronizingly, or giving clients a "kick in the pants" for taking "too long" to do something, it's becoming the mainstream approach to dishonour people's inherent wisdom.  I don't believe someone who respects your individual sovereignty, i.e. your right, responsibility and basic ability to govern your own life well, will ever engage with you in that way.  You?

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Resilience. Admitting when it hurts

Resilience. Admitting when it hurts

Why can’t I say it hurts? I grew up in a "suck it up and wear a smile" culture, but that is not restricted to where I grew up.  It didn't help that dance performances reinforced that message in the physical as well, and that I have been dancing for most of my life.  I truly thought resilience meant being able to smile, breathe and function like a well-adjusted individual, regardless of what happens to you.  I've been through some brutal things and came out smiling because I thought that meant I was no one's victim. What’s your journey been like? Where is it taking you now? I hope this inspires a greater sense of freedom to simply Be.

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